Health And General Life Care: RE: [loveshy_drgilmartin] Got a girlfriend now

RE: [loveshy_drgilmartin] Got a girlfriend now

Thursday, 10 January 2008

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I have a girlfriend now, and god does it feel so good. Words just can not describe the feeling, it is like being let out of jail. More than anything else, what I enjoy is walking down the street holding her hand, that is such a great feeling and better than kissing or sex.
I have been on this group for about six months now. When I first joined this group I was a 24 year old man that had never had a girlfriend and my only experience with women was one kiss in 2001 with a drunk fat girl.

For a long time I had never made any real attempt to fight my love-shyness. I had no idea about the condition and I thought that I was alone since all of my friends have had some experience with women by my age. However in July my life changed, I missed a huge chance with the woman of my dreams. She was flirting with me, but I was too shy to return her signs, so she moved on and got a new boyfriend. At the time I was heartbroken, she was my crush for almost five years and I missed my chance with her.

For weeks I was in total pain, I used to sit in front of the computer for hours feeling like I was going to die. Then late at night I came across the love-shyness article on wikipedia and found out about Dr Gilmartins research. It was a real eye opener for me, I got to understand that I am not a loser and there are other people just like me.

I then made the decision to change my whole attitude to life. Six months ago I was a social isolate, I would often got for days with having a conversation with anyone. So I made a simple plan and sticked with it:

1. Have at least one conversation a day.
2. approach one female a week.
3. Keep female friends because they can be useful networking links for other girls.

Slowly I began to beat my social phobia, I began to meet new people and make friends. After months of pain and heartbreak, I got a few lucky breaks at nightclubs. These servered as great confidence boosters, but they do not replace the "girlfriend experience" (to use pussy boy's term)

After months of cold approaches, failed first dates, rejections, and so on; I finally met a girl that likes me at a dinner party. Finally we went out alone together, and she took my hand and later in the evening I initiated the first kiss.

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