Health And General Life Care: [loveshy_drgilmartin] Re: New way to think about love-shyness

[loveshy_drgilmartin] Re: New way to think about love-shyness

Sunday, 20 January 2008

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Your theory would fit if a loveshy could answer an approach from a
woman. Twice, I was invited by two different women to make love, and
both I was not able. Of course, it was not a somatic o moral problem.

I was blocked, not only to mate, but to answer an approach when I
was in a passive position. Your theory predicts a loveshy in this
position could answer as women do when they are approached by an
active, non loveshy man.

Maybe in my problem there is something different from love shyness.
Has anybody had a similar experience?

--- In loveshy_drgilmartin@yahoogroups.com, "Talmer Shockley"
<author@...> wrote:
>
> In the process of researching for my love-shy book and working to
> prepare a presentation about love-shyness, I came across an
> interesting fact. Unlike most birds whose songs are stored
> genetically, a baby robin must hear its species' mating song
within a
> certain number of days or it becomes forever unable to learn the
song
> and be able to mate. If the baby robin hears another species'
mating
> song then it becomes "confused" and is unable to ever mate. This
> seems similar to the few cases of human children who never heard a
> spoken language until age 9 or 11 and have become unable to ever
> pickup language to any significant degree.
>
> A transsexual is someone whose whole brain seems to be of the
opposite
> sex of his or her body. A homosexual is someone who has the part
of
> their brain responsible for the gender they are attracted to
reversed.
> Dr. Gilmartin and I claim that the gender specific mating ritual
can
> also become reversed in the brain.
>
> This is Dr. Gilmartin's poorly termed "male lesbian." I prefer the
> term "passive male" to describe those who have the part of the
brain
> responsible for the mating ritual feminized. Gilmartin estimates
1/3
> or so of love-shys have this inborn condition, even though all of
us
> love-shys are passive.
>
> This may all be a bit confusing, but my point is that us love-shys
> beat ourselves up for our problem and try extreme things to
overcome
> it when it is something we are born with and/or something
hardwired in
> our brain during childhood. We are the 1% or so of males for whom
the
> instinctive mating ritual did not take hold. This is not some
simple
> psychological issue. Instead of beating ourselves up for our
failures
> , we need to protest to get this condition officially recognized.
>