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Greetings, Salutations, & Happy New Year, CT!
Glad to hear of your good fortune! But then--at least from what I've
gathered from your postings-- you're a profoundly young dude @ a
University or similar setting that presents countless possibilities of
meeting women, but finding one that's equally appealing & appreciative
of your affections in the manner you described is often-times
frustratingly fruitless (re: to my post pertaining to "The Right Ones
vs. The Eyesores" that garnered me some flak around mid-year 2007.) I
could elaborate on failures, disappointment, & their probable causes,
but it seems Steve Miller had it right in his 1976 tune "Big Ol' Jet
Airliner":
You Got To Go Through Hell Before You Get To Heaven!
Or at least Craigslist >|oD !!
Your tips for overcoming your social isolation is commendable,
too! Many Thanks,Best Wishes, & Better Tomorrows!!
--- In loveshy_drgilmartin
<clivetillman@
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> I have a girlfriend now, and god does it feel so good. Words just
can not describe the feeling, it is like being let out of jail. More
than anything else, what I enjoy is walking down the street holding
her hand, that is such a great feeling and better than kissing or sex.
> I have been on this group for about six months now. When I first
joined this group I was a 24 year old man that had never had a
girlfriend and my only experience with women was one kiss in 2001 with
a drunk fat girl.
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> For a long time I had never made any real attempt to fight my
love-shyness. I had no idea about the condition and I thought that I
was alone since all of my friends have had some experience with women
by my age. However in July my life changed, I missed a huge chance
with the woman of my dreams. She was flirting with me, but I was too
shy to return her signs, so she moved on and got a new boyfriend. At
the time I was heartbroken, she was my crush for almost five years and
I missed my chance with her.
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> For weeks I was in total pain, I used to sit in front of the
computer for hours feeling like I was going to die. Then late at night
I came across the love-shyness article on wikipedia and found out
about Dr Gilmartins research. It was a real eye opener for me, I got
to understand that I am not a loser and there are other people just
like me.
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> I then made the decision to change my whole attitude to life. Six
months ago I was a social isolate, I would often got for days with
having a conversation with anyone. So I made a simple plan and sticked
with it:
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> 1. Have at least one conversation a day.
> 2. approach one female a week.
> 3. Keep female friends because they can be useful networking links
for other girls.
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> Slowly I began to beat my social phobia, I began to meet new people
and make friends. After months of pain and heartbreak, I got a few
lucky breaks at nightclubs. These servered as great confidence
boosters, but they do not replace the "girlfriend experience" (to use
pussy boy's term)
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> After months of cold approaches, failed first dates, rejections, and
so on; I finally met a girl that likes me at a dinner party. Finally
we went out alone together, and she took my hand and later in the
evening I initiated the first kiss.
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